Wednesday, October 30, 2013

Less talk and a little more action

The last several weeks have found me thinking a lot about my lifelong dream that somewhere over the last couple of years I kind of buried, or filed away in hidden storage of my mind. My dream for as long as I can remember has been to have a ranch, with horses and farm animals and a garden...and I want to work with kids in the foster system that have been bounced around too much because of behavioral issues. As only God can do...we had a guest speaker a couple weeks ago, that runs a program for foster kids to get to attend camp. He totally brought the rest of my dreams and plans to the very front, along with many tears and a broken heart for a broken world that does not take care of widows and orphans as we've been commanded to do.
Matthew 25:31-46

40 "The King will reply, ‘Truly I tell you, whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers and sisters of mine, you did for me.’
Funny how dreams work. Funny how time changes circumstances...but like many things in my life over the last year, I lay it at His feet, I believe He gave me that dream and that desire and that He will bring it to fruition according to his perfect will and timing; and He will also do the work in my husbands heart without my ever saying a word, if it's His will.

Along with the dream resurfacing to the forefront of my mind has been this boredom of doing Bible Studies. I want to do something! There is nothing wrong with doing Bible Studies and frankly, the Bible is my favorite book, however, we are to be doers and when we are not doing there is this void in our lives. James 1:22-25 22 Do not merely listen to the word, and so deceive yourselves. Do what it says. 23 Anyone who listens to the word but does not do what it says is like someone who looks at his face in a mirror 24 and, after looking at himself, goes away and immediately forgets what he looks like. 25 But whoever looks intently into the perfect law that gives freedom, and continues in it—not forgetting what they have heard, but doing it—they will be blessed in what they do.
I struggle very much with this desire to be in full-time ministry and the very real fact that I am already in 2 full-time ministries: wife and mom. It is my job to train these children up in a way that honors God and so that they know God and not just mom's God. Too much time playing and hanging out, not enough doing. Why do we think that kids can't handle stuff, why are kids not really welcome in ministering to others? The same Holy Spirit that dwells in me dwells in my children, there is no maturing of the Holy Spirit, He is already God and was there at the beginning. We mature and become better listeners, The Holy Spirit doesn't change, just like God. I want to teach my kids to do something...am not sure yet, what this will look like, or where we will be led to give back to others. But, I want my kids to know how to be a servant and how to actively love with the love of Christ. We've been reading in our homeschool history books stories of kids, Elijah's age, in the pioneer days that had massive responsibilites, they handled the farm animals, they carried knives, they cooked the meals for the parents and had active rolls in helping with the younger children. But we pad our children's worlds a bit too much, protecting them from both good and bad things, and stunting the growth of their critical thinking and maturity.

Does taking my kids to a soup kitchen sound like fun to me? No, not really! I think that the 1st few times it would really try my patience and tempt my temper to flare :) But, do I think that my kids would greatly benefit from seeing real need and helping to serve, and or just putting a smile on a lonely persons face? Absolutely!

Friday, October 18, 2013

Mustard Seeds

Prayer....Believing God....Believing God to be The Sovereign King that He is...Believing in God...
Recently I posted a prayer request on FaceBook and I got lots of advice :) and a few people who agreed to pray. Do we really believe that the God in the Bible is so much more than our current worldviews, our tiny brains can comprehend, or the box that we put Him in is actually without borders?
Believe me when I say that I think that my prayer life could increase exponentiallly and still not reach its full potential! However, do we really believe HE IS the I AM? Do we really believe HE IS our Strongtower? Do we really believe HE IS our Provider, Jehovah Jireh? Do we really believe HE IS Healer, Jehova Raphi? Do we really believe HE IS THE SAME YESTERDAY, TODAY AND TOMORROW? I could go on and on and on, HE has so many names, so many atributes, so many reasons why we should worship at His feet and His alone...
I say these things to say that I struggle with prayer requests...sometimes, I feel like it's just another way to gossip...
There's a verse in Romans that says that the Spirit will intercede when we know not what to pray, Jesus is our mediator, The Lord's Prayer is so very simple, Paul prays for souls and for minds to be like that of Christ Jesus...many of you know some of my testimony, and I am sure that I will be sharing much of it through this blog, I'm not sure how much, but it is my goal to be obedient. I so desire for God to use my circumstances to help someone else carry their cross. How much is it about prayer and how much is it about faith? I can remember many nights in our marriage where I simply sat on my knees and wept before the Lord, there were not many words! I knew that God was going to deliver my husband, I just did not know when or how!
Recently my friend sent me one of Francis Chan's videos and I want to share part of my response because I am having troubles rewording it to jive with the blog, so I'll just enclose the email:

"WOW! As usual Francis rocked it, I know I know, that was his point :) that we were supposed to notice Jesus more than Francis...and I did, I promise. love this message about more of Jesus and less rules. and I gotta say that the rules kept me from God and Jesus for many years...we need to preach Grace ever so much more than rules. When we preach rules I feel like it cheapens our faith, like we don't believe the Holy Spirit is able to accomplish His work...
It made me think about this whole prayer 'issue' I've been pondering for a while, not that I ever quit communicating with Abba, just that I started questioning a lot of things. I think for me the phrase How can I pray for you? started rating right up there with How are you? People use it to gossip and don't really care about the answer so much...Recently I answered with: 'That I would know Him more intimately. That I would be humble, teachable and correctable. that I would love my neighbor as myself'. We get so caught up in praying for jobs, and kids attitudes, and $$ to go on vacation or whatever your worldly need might be right now. But doesn't God want us to be more like Him, doesn't He want us to praise Him with His own Word. The most common things I pray over my kids (and friends) are: God let them know You ever more intimately and powerfully and spread Your love constantly, and to be content in You. Not that God doesn't care about the details, cuz He compares Himself to a dad and wanting to give good gifts. I just think that if I focus more on knowing Him and honoring Him more and being obedient then I feel like He's going to iron out all the details for me, since He also says that He laid my life out at Creation. Why would I want to pray for weeks that God give me that hot red sportscar when all along God planned to give me a silver Honda Odyssey so that I can carry around the foster kids that are just around the corner? Its still an enigma to me...I definitely have not arrived. But listening to Chan made me come back to this 'prayer' that I've been pondering for months...even with the renters that I want to find for my house, I have not been praying about it. God led us here on this journey, and God knows that $$ is tight and God knows that renting the house would be helpful, so I pray that we would be good stewards with what He's giving us and that we would honor Him with all our decisions. It may not be in His plan to rent the house. Who knows, He could've brot us here for only a short while and want us to return home and then renting the house would've been a dumb idea...like I said: still an enigma :)"
One of the things that I learned while being married to an addict was that the Holy Spirit can say more, say it better, and say it at the right time, than my mouth could every say. Now if I could just learn this with my kids :) Because, in my Spirit which communes regularly with the Holy Spirit, that dwells in this Temple, He already knows.
There is also the whole where 2 or more are gathered, there am I also...it is good for us to pray like-minded. I just think that it's not so much about a shopping list as it is about a relationship with God. One of the things that still stands out, 8 years later, of the mission trip I took after Bible School to Mexico was the praying! These people PRAYED!!! I mean praying in the Spirit, but they ALL prayed out loud at the same time. In America we all respectfully pray individually and listen to each persons prayer, making it more about the words that are said than the ONE whom they are said to. Do you know what?! God heard everyone of those prayers in that sanctuary, even though they were 'prayed on top of each other'...God is Omniscient, Omnipresent, why do we think we need to hear another persons prayers?
"It's all about You, Jesus, all about you!" "Jesus, be the center" just a few of the songs that replay themselves in my brain (believe me, you don't want to live up there)...do we really mean what we sing to this Holy God, Who is not only able, but willing to meet us wherever we are?
My favorite verse is the 2nd to last verse of a very amazing chapter in the book of Psalms, there isn't a verse in Chapter 46 that doesn't rock my world! But there is 1 that I meditate on regularly, and it is often misquoted, and I believe that when you misquote it that you miss the intensity and heart behind the verse...He says, “Be still, and know that I am God;    I will be exalted among the nations,    I will be exalted in the earth.” He's already got it all under control!

Sunday, October 6, 2013

A little backstory...

2 Cor 1:3-4


3 Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, 4 who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God.

I found this verse years ago, I think during my missionary days, and immediately thought ‘this is my life’s verse’.

Life is messy! I’m usually a mess until Adonai’s precious peace has restored my equilibrium. I am a new stay at home mom, homeschooling my 2 awesome youngins. I love my hubby and my kiddos and am learning to love the constant chaos that is being a stay at home mom. I am learning a lot about it being enough. I grew up with parents who told me I could do and be anything I wanted and so I tried. But, it would seem that while I can do many things, the gifts and my design was made first for me to be a wife and then a mother. And even though the world will have you going in 29 different directions: being a mommy is not only enough, it is a lot and it is WORTHY! What could be better than spending your talents investing in the next generation and allowing them to affect their peers in a wonderful way and pointing them towards our Heavenly Father, not by preaching but by a lifestyle that spells peace and contentment.

After 7 years of walking through hell’s chaotic fires and reign with my husband we have found firm ground. In this world of instant romance, and soul mates, I won’t lie and tell you that my man is my soul mate, the man of my dreams. But after much time in the Refiner’s fire I heard myself tell him tonight that he is becoming the man of my dreams. Some people want to know why I stayed and the quick answer is: because God said so. But you would have to understand that first I armed myself with the Word of God and was firmly planted in my walk and that He led me to keep up the good fight.

The world would label my husband a crack addict. I think like many of us he just lived in Romans 7 for far too long! It was a long, hard journey to redemption. I always told my husband that it wasn’t the drugs for me; it was the lies and the lifestyle that went with it. Like many men from a broken home, without consistent or quality male leadership he was seeking acceptance in all the wrong places.

In the Bible the number 7 is often used to signify completion or perfection. Well last October marked 7 years for us. For Christmas my husband bought me a beautiful ring, I wear it as a Memorial to the freedom that God has given us. (And yesterday was our 8th anniversary :)

We are in a very sweet place right now in our life! Not perfect by any stretch of the imagination. But, with the recession and my husband’s former habits, we found it hard to get by back home. So I find myself in a totally new season of life in a totally new town, halfway across the country from my family. We left home to join the oil boom in ND, to make some money and get out of debt, but also to get away from family and friends who meant well but whose opinions and actions were driving a wedge where we were trying to become one. It was time for us to toss off all the chains that bind us and run free and find freedom in the oneness that God gave us when we said: ‘I do’. Being on our own has been very good for us and we are learning to have fun with each other again. He is also being built up as the provider and protector and relishing the respect that is rightfully his as head of household. It is sweet to see him embrace his role as our covering.

I have always been shy and quiet until I am comfortable around you…but back when I worked at a home with teenaged girls I found that I love to teach. So it is my desire to simply lead and teach the things that God has so graciously taught me.

I believe that God is Sovereign and Mighty and Powerful! He is everywhere and yet He is never too busy to hear my frustrations; He designed my life and ordered my days at the foundations of the earth, therefore He is intimately acquainted and involved in my daily struggles and triumphs; He is the perfect Dad, knows how to love me perfectly, when I need discipline and when I need a hug; Jesus is the only way to heaven; but I believe that God, Jesus and the Holy Spirit are way more than a ticket to heaven, the redeemed life is so much better than flailing aimlessly in the world.

Psalm 119:11 is a verse I learned long before I knew my precious Saviour personally! My grandma used to walk around saying it regularly, and of course, she quoted it from KJV: "I will hide Thy Word in my heart, Lord, that I might not sin against Thee". Not a bad verse to already have memorized when years later God would invite me into His fold. I am far from perfect and know that in no way have I not sinned against Him. But I have strived to hide His Word in my heart. I have read and studied scripture and meditated on passages for days, weeks, months…By the Grace of God alone!

It has been quite a walk since God invaded my life in such a powerful way 14 years ago. He showed himself in this heathen’s life undeniably. There was no turning back, there was no way to deny Him, and He knocked me around and got ahold of me and forever altered the course of my life. It wasn’t long after meeting God and reading my way through a women’s devotional Bible that it became clear that I needed to pack up and leave the small little town I called home. I could not follow God’s new call on my life and hang out in the clubs with all my old buds....and so my life's greatest journey began the 1st time I left home...I tell people I have salt water in my veins and gypsy feet, I'm not sure I'll rest until God calls me home :)


Divorce

If you have landed on my page and you are divorced, I want you to know that I accept you and am so sorry for all the hurt that have faced or are facing. Moses brought the law; Jesus Christ brought Grace and Truth. I need you to know that I don’t think that divorce is the right answer, and I did not choose that road while walking through my personal hell. But, I extend Grace to you and want you to know that the blood of Jesus offers Grace and Forgiveness even in divorce. You will read about my struggle and my battle about divorce. I have been on my knees sobbing and weeping and begging God for release from my vows to which He replied: ‘NO’. And while I am glad that I did not do it, I don't want you to feel alienated from opinions that will be in this blog. Please enter in and learn with me about this new Truth I’ve been learning the last couple of years called: ‘Grace’.

That kind of girl

I am scared to death to post this blog! I just need you to hear me J I was doing a little research today and a blog was talking about needing a clear path to make a blog a success, to know your audience and what you want to say and who you want to reach. I hear ya, but…I’m not really that kind of girl. I just know that through the last several years God was building a testimony through my husband and I. I’m kind of take it as it comes kind of girl.
I can remember back when I was in full-time ministry, one of my jobs was to run the kitchen for about 30 people, 3 meals a day. One day…we had kind of a busy week and we needed a meal, but nothing was really on the menu and no one had been there all day to prepare it. My co-laborer walks in and asks if she can help. I looked around the kitchen and said something like: I don’t really know, I don’t have a plan yet. To which she replied something like: yes, but you are a choleric; there will be something beautiful out of this chaos. Story of my life.
At the beginning of this year as we were planning to move to North Dakota we got lots of questions. People always wanted to know what the plan was, where, when, why, how…to which I usually replied with my arms out in front and clasped, making a circle: His light is only shining this far and your questions are landing outside his light (Ps 119:105 Your word is a lamp to my feet
And a light to my path). I said we are going on an adventure. And we have! We left our 2 acres and 2400 square foot house to come live in a 29’ camper on a 30x90 lot with 362 other campers. But, it is an adventure. We are involved in an awesome church. We are spending more family time together doing fun things, even though Jason works crazy hours. I am homeschooling and staying at home with our 7 year old son, Elijah and our 4 year daughter Hannah.
Did I mention that I was scared to death to put something out there? Even though I feel in my gut that this is where Adonai is leading. And I made my Barnabas promise to hold me accountable to posting something, anything, by the end of the week. And while I hear the ladies saying to plan, plan and plan…I am not disagreeing with you, I am simply saying that sometimes God leads us where we are not sure of the plan, as has often been the case in my life.
Everyone should have a Barnabas/Jonathon in their life J back when we were in the trenches (in full time ministry fighting the ever present enemy) together, she scared me half to death and she became my Paul. We taught all the girls at the farm that they needed a Paul (a mentor), a Timothy (someone a little less mature) and a Barnabas (an encourager, a running buddy). While she started as my Paul, she is now my closest and dearest friend. There is nobody else that can punch me with a 2x4 quite as hard or covered with as much love and grace as she can.
Welcome to my journey of living a Christ centered marriage and life. Life is hard! To be in the world but not of the world…America has all kinds of fads and doctrines, many of them seem innocent but most of them run contrary to what the Bible says. Learning to respect my husband (even/especially when he didn’t deserve it), honor him and his choices for our family, become a woman who could do anything she puts her mind to yet choosing to stay home and pour her gifts and talents into a much greater audience: our contribution to the next generation, this was one of the harder lessons: yes! being a wife and mommy is not only enough, it is the highest honor and calling.
Walk with me, struggle with me and let’s find grace together in this journey of life.